For some time I wasn’t sure whether I should write this article. Some might think it isn’t linked to my diagnosis and is private. But events in Poland and southern U.S. make my blood boil hence I decided to share my story.

It was 2015, I just finished my university degree. My period was late so I did a test and found out it was positive (with my ex of five years). It wasn’t an easy decision but I decided to have an abortion. It was quite early on – six weeks to be precise – so I didn’t need any surgical intervention.

The reason why I talk about it openly is because I believe it is important to listen to peoples’ stories and understand their positions. It is one of the best decisions I’ve made because I experienced pregnancy and abortion therefore can confidently talk on the issue.

How is this linked to my diagnosis, you might ask. I discussed fertility and freezing my eggs before the treatment. Talking to a number of people, I decided that getting pregnant would be too risky with my condition. Furthermore, I believe pregnancy would affect me, both physically and emotionally. It would be selfish and irresponsible towards the child and my family if something happen to me. I know that everyone in similar situation has different opinions and we are entitled to them.

But what’s important here is the freedom of choice. Because I went through the experience, it’s much easier to accept the circumstances. And this has been made possible because I could choose. Everyone should have this choice to make informed decision.

This issue might not be relevant for everyone, however I don’t regret talking about it. As I do not regret having an abortion. Fertility can be a big topic, not only for oncological patients and we shouldn’t be ashamed to talk. Talk and don’t judge. Whatever your choice is, respect others you might not agree with. I’m glad that I could have asked questions and made informed decisions. I’m grateful for the time and place. Not everyone is so lucky.